Earlier this morning:
Ashley to 6-yr-old A: So, your birthday’s coming up. Do you want to go on a birthday trip or have a birthday party with friends?
A: Definitely a party with friends. Here’s the deal: I make the decorations with a liiitle bit of help from S, and you make the treats. You can either buy cupcakes or make them if you have time, Mama.
B: Who do you want to invite?
A: Let me get the list. (A. runs out of the bedroom and comes back with his class list, which has several names circled. Drawings of birthday presents in the margins are his version of notes.)
Autonomy, competence, and relatedness. The three needs of adolescence show up early and stay late.